Grayson Bruce has been bullied at school. He has been picked on, pushed and even told to go home and die.
All because he had a My Little Pony lunchbox and pony.
When his mother brought it to the attention of the school, they had a simple solution. One that might just solve all bullying in schools.
They told the young man he was not allowed to bring the lunchbox and pony to school. That way no one would bully the child. Because when a “girly” lunchbox goes away, then there is no reason to pick on a child.
As of yet, there is no documented punishment for the bullies.
The mom went to the press about it since the school would not listen. It is becoming a viral story.
I know about viral bullying stories. I helped one go viral six months ago about bullying. Because a woman named Karen Suffern came to my Facebook page for help.
When I was reading commentaries about the situation I read one from one of my favorite writers Matt Walsh. Now, I have to say he is one of if not the most talented writers out there but I rarely agree with him. I wish I had a percentage of his talent and I think he conveys things very well. But his views are just a touch different than mine, yet I can respect his work.
He wrote a post today where he felt like he was going to be in the minority of his viewpoint. He said he would never let his son wear a My Little Pony backpack and kind of went back and fourth about bullying and gender related products.
It was very well written (like all of his work) but I do not agree with him at all. I think his viewpoint is the majority of people but I could not disagree with him more.
In my eyes, he missed the point of the backpack/lunchbox/pony. Many people do.
You see, if a child does not wear a My Little Pony backpack/ lunchbox, then they will be bullied for something else. Bullying has nothing to do with a lunchbox. If it was not a lunchbox then it would be for their weight, their height, their gender or their skin color. Granted, the My Little Pony backpack/lunchbox generally would be for a girl in society’s eyes. Since it is not 1963 anymore, i would hope that people would see that guys can have kitchens and cook and women can play with guns. Having and building confidence in others should be higher up in society’s eyes. I watched GEM and the Holograms when I was a kid. I watched episodes of Sweet Valley High. I had friends who were both male and female. I also liked sports. Does any of it matter?
Not when you realize that bullies are bullies.
That is what schools do not seem to understand. They have this “Boys will be boys” and “Girls will be girls” mentality which basically sweeps responsibility under the rug for parents and administrators. They hate when people disrupt their flow. Like it is a disruption for an administrator to handle an issue without getting back to it. The school should have just said “Hey, Grayson can have that backpack if he wants, and if anyone picks on him they will be expelled.” Done!
Because if it is not My Little Pony…what other backpacks is he not allowed to have? Frozen? Doc McStuffins?
If it is not a backpack/lunchbox/pony it is something else. I thought about my son and what if he had a My Little Pony backpack. Right now he likes trucks and cars. He watches Toy Story and Cars. He is four. He plays sports and he hangs out with all of his classmates.
He also knows right from wrong. He knows you do not have to hit someone to stand up for yourself. That is the absolute last result. He knows confidence, something I lacked as an obese child.
What if a girl came in with a G.I. Joe lunchbox and action figure? What if a girl liked black instead of pink? What if a guy has a Sophia The First lunch box instead of My Little Pony?
None of it matters. Not until you understand bullies.
Bullies are weak-minded people. Kid bullies have weak-minded parents who were bullies once as well. They prey on those that have a weakness or a visible one. Maybe the kid is chubby, or small or a color/religion unlike the others. We should be teaching children confidence and tolerance instead of fighting back. Is it realistic? Sadly no.
We do not live in a “wussification” society. That is what anonymous people on the internet will tell you. If you think it is more important for a boy to be tough than to treat a woman with respect, then you have been misguided. If you think it is unacceptable for a man to cry, then you have been misguided. We live in the best time now and my fear is that the term “bullying” is being watered down. Not because of the seriousness of these types of cases but because of people loosely yelling “bully”. Because of those who think a disagreement is bullying. No, hitting a kid for a backpack is bullying.
This has nothing to do with a backpack/lunchbox. It is silly to bring up “Bronies” and their documentaries because that is not what Grayson is. This has to do with a nine year old child who is picked on at school and blamed for his bullying because of a “girly” backpack/lunchbox/whatever. I wish I could solve all bullying by using “gender specific” items. When you know exactly what those are…let me know.
Honestly, my son will probably never have a My Little Pony backpack. If he did, then more power to him because he will have the confidence to wear it every day. I truly would not care and he will probably do things that I might question and like things I will disagree with. As a parent, I have to use proper discretion. And if people pick on him, then I will fight for him like I do for so many others.
That is not the point. I do not care if my son has the backpack…
I refuse to raise a child who will pick on someone for being different than the masses.