It angered me. It angered me for so many reasons. I remember seeing so many bloggers avoiding posting about it. To so many it was not their fight. Do not bring attention to it, that is what they want.
It was my fight. It is the reason I blog.
For over thirty years, I never said anything back when I was called disgusting. Fat. Lazy. I see too many people who insult themselves. People who are beautiful. People who have lost a lot of weight who lack the self respect. Because of articles like this.
Well, the beauty of it is I do not have to take it anymore.
This is what I wrote back to the editor.
Dear Marie Claire,
Should “Baldies” Get a Room? (Even on Twitter?)
By Tony Posnanski
The other day, my editor asked me, “Do you really think people feel uncomfortable when they see bald men on weight loss blogs?”
Because I can be kind of clueless — I’m not much of a weight loss blogging person — I had no idea what she was talking about, so she steered me to this CNN article, about the bald blogger Tony Posnanski. As CNN explains, “the blog centers around a bald man who went to Weight Watchers has drawn complaints for its abundance of bald jokes, but cheers for his hatred of fat jokes [as well as] cries from some viewers who aren’t comfortable about him talking about how he was not able to wipe his ass when he weighed over 400 pounds.”
My initial response was: Hmm, being bald is one thing — this person is downright BALD! And while I think our country’s obsession with hair is unhealthy, I also think it’s at least equally crazy, albeit in the other direction, to be implicitly promoting baldness! Yes, wearing a wig is sick, but at least some slim models have real hair. No one who is as bald as Tony Posnanski can be healthy. And baldness is costing our country far more in terms of all the related health problems we are paying for, by way of our insurance, than any other health problem, even cancer.
So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch Tony Posnanski on a weight loss blog… because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch him doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very bald person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.
Now, don’t go getting the wrong impression: I have a few friends who could be called bald. I’m not some bald-ist jerk. And I also know how tough it can be for truly bald people to psych themselves up for the long process of getting hair. (For instance, the bald maintenance guy at my gym has talked to me a little bit about how it seems worthless for him to even try to get hair, because he’s been bald for as long as he can remember.)
But … I think baldness is something that most people have a ton of control over. It’s something they can change, if only they put their minds to it.
(I’m happy to give you some hair loss suggestions if you need them — but long story short some medicines can cause hair loss. This type of hair loss improves when you stop taking the medicine. Medicines that can cause hair loss include blood thinners (also called anticoagulants), medicines used for gout, high blood pressure or heart problems, vitamin A (if too much is taken), birth control pills and antidepressants.
Certain infections can cause hair loss. Fungal infections of the scalp can cause hair loss in children. The infection is easily treated with antifungal medicines.
Finally, hair loss may occur as part of an underlying disease, such as lupus or diabetes. Since hair loss may be an early sign of a disease, it is important to find the cause so that it can be treated.,.
I admit that there’s plenty that makes getting hair down tough, but YOU CAN DO IT! Trust me. It will take some time, but you’ll also feel so good, physically and emotionally. A doctor or someone who makes wigs will help — and if you can’t afford one, visit your local HAT STORE for some advice.)
Then again, I guess the blogger does wear a skull cap. So … points for trying?
Then again, I tend to think most male weight loss bloggers are bald. Tony lost 221 pounds, yet he can not get any hair?
The weight loss community gives us an excuse to turn on both our brains and our bodies and probably does a helluva lot to contribute to the baldness problem with stressing over stupid articles about insulting overweight people, over all. So … I don’t know.
What do you guys think? Bald male bloggers — are you cool with it? Do you think I’m being an insensitive jerk?
Tony Posnanski is a weight loss blogger who has been called fat and disgusting his whole life. Some of the things he has been called: Fat, Lazy, and Stupid, Ugly, Disgusting Lazy (that was twice) and fascinating. He loves being with his friends. His tight circle includes a guy from Tennessee, a web designer from Utah, an inspiring woman in Minnesota, a fantastic writer who he has never seen her face, a mom from Baltimore, and a radio DJ from Oklahoma. On his dating resume, there is only one wonderful woman in his life, Rebecca. Though he is in his thirties, he has never been skinny before- and has started to wonder if he ever will be. He decided he has to start making weight loss his job if it’s ever going to happen. He also wondered is people really know what fat is? How stupid some people could be for calling someone fat. Tony remembers when he lost 100 pounds, he was 320 pounds. Was he fat then? Hence, this blog, where people might call him and his friends fat, but he does not have to take it. His personal essays have appeared or are forthcoming in AOL, CNN, to name a few.
I do not expect you to post this. This would be the stupidest thing you would post…..
Well, second stupidest.
Never let anyone disrespect you, no matter your weight.