“Okay, I just liked you on Facebook and I follow you on Twitter. You owe me 😉 I need some inspiration today. Help me get motivated to go to the gym!!!”

Facebook Message

I got this a month ago.  I guarantee this looks normal to you. A “fan” wanting inspiration to work out. We all need it. Some days we have all the motivation, and others are a little lackluster.

Unfortunately, I never got that far in the message. I just read the first two sentences.

Where I was treated like an “inspiration whore.”

Where I owe someone something for following me on social networks. Where I got a payment, and now I need to whisper what they want to hear to go to the gym.

That is why someone would follow me? For something in return. I do not give enough?

This bothered me. It still does. I could care less about the “;)” at the end of the sentence. It bothers me that someone would write this.

So let me get on my cutest outfit and whisper sweet nothings to you. What do you want to hear? “Skip the gym, it is okay.” “You should go to the gym, I did.” Tell me, how do you want  me to inspire you. Do you want me to tell you the pizza last night was okay for you? DO you want me to talk about The Biggest Loser? Tell me, how can I inspire you?

I mean, you paid me right. I am an “inspiration whore”.

The problem is you just completely put me down. You just took all of the work I put into my social networks, and expected a payment for it.

And I believe it. I think that people follow me because I beg. And then, I stop promoting myself. That is wrong.

You probably did not mean to insult me, but you did. When these posts come up, I usually put myself down.I go into a little non promotion phase.

Funny thing is, I feel like I annoy people when I ask people to follow me.

Yet, I put up a good amount of original content. I do not give out a ton of links. I do not whine about hating life like most on Twitter. I try to give a different perspective. I do not “Retweet” everything in site, or just put up articles about weight loss on my Facebook to clutter your news feed.

And then I think that my Facebook page is not that good……

Yet, it is ironic that I saw on Hungry Girl’s Facebook Page “Quick, last fruit you ate.” a couple of months back. And that she asks a question every day over the past few months, like I have for over a year.

It just shows that I have a good thing going. I ask people to like because it is a good way to get new posts, meet a few people and I do try to be a little creative.

But if you are doing it because I owe you, there are other people out there to follow. I am definitely not one of the top 1,000,000 inspirational people. I am never voted in any of those contests,

On Twitter, I am silly. I am not a link monster. I do not think you care if I put cabbage in soup or not and you want to hear me whine about not going to the gym. I do not have to talk about going to the gym. I go every day. Not because someone quoted Thomas Jefferson, but because I know that I need to go.

When I get Facebook messages like this, I step back. I do not want to promote myself as much.

As I said earlier this week, I need to get the harmonica out of my ass.

But maybe I need to keep it in. Because I had a mushy apple does not mean that all apples are bad. That is the hardest thing for me to learn. I have given my heart and my soul into this blog and the whole “The Anti-Jared” brand. I have not asked for much in return. I do not want funding for my blog. I made it better for you and me.  I do not want to advertise a blog for payment. If your blog interests me, I will promote it, not because you send me a couple of bucks through PayPal.

I do not want you to link my blog for a chance to win a fun fitness pack.

There are others that do. CEO’s and Founders of some Fitfunmomdadyogakettlebellp90x extravaganza. They want your money. They will inspire you. Vote for them in their top 1000 Parent Tweetness.

They will tell you anything you want to hear. I am no whore.

What I am is an entertainer. A low level one, but a internet reality personality. I tell you my stories, and hope you get something out of them, like I did. The reason I talk about not being able to wipe my ass is because I hated the fact that I thought I was the only one. The more I write, the more I realize there are others like me.

But do not use me for inspiration when you need it and that is all. Do not say we are friends, then go away, then come back and want me to support you.

That is a “booty call”. That makes everything I do here a joke. I am not a joke.

What I am is a crazy guy who used to sit in a empty parking lot at 3am with a ton of food. I am a guy who would drive an hour to eat food. I am also a guy that when I was 385 pounds, I woke up at 5am to go workout. Not because my wife woke me up, but because I knew I needed to.

I am not going to have the same views as others. As much as you want me to, I am not.

Do not cheapen what I have done here. If I built up followers by begging, I would have twenty…maybe. I put my heart and creativity in everything I do. For every idea I put out, I think of ten more. That is why it is so hard for me to stick with something, I think of something else. I have always had the creativity. I hide it in a corporate job and shyness.

But I do need to promote myself, because I do not want anyone else to do it. Did I contradict what I said two posts ago. Absolutely. Bloggers are human and my favorite ones contradict themselves all the time.

So I will not be your “inspiration whore”. You can have your payments back. Please do not “like” me on any social network. In fact, you do not even need to read me.

Because I have been screwed enough in life. Not anymore.

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