My two year anonymous comment anniversary
Tweet“Congrats on being on a DIET for 32 weeks, but I’m sorry to inform you that I don’t believe you are doing Weight Watchers.
In 32 weeks you have STARVED yourself doing a variation of a few plans,and freely admitted this yourself. Your results are BEYOND typical. This is prob why friends/coworkers ask if you had the surgery. I know people who have had GBS who didn’t lose as fast as you.
FYI WW recommends .5-2 pounds a week. For those of us who are extremely obese its 1% of what you weigh that week.
What you have done is put a strain on your heart and other vital organs. Also when you take it off so quickly you have a higher chance of regaining.
Jumping on the WW website and patting your own back, telling people how you have done this on WW, is very misleading.
You aren’t fooling ANYONE but yourself and a few naive posters.
Toot your own horn all you like, but you won’t convince anyone but YOURSELF that you are following the program!”
Anonymous 10/12/2008
Two years ago I received my first anonymous comment.
I remember it very well.One thing about me, I have a very good memory.
I just started blogging. I remember that I promoted my blog everywhere I could. I wanted comments. I loved comments.
I got a few positive ones at the time.It did not matter. I wanted to see those comments.
Then this came. Like a ton of bricks. I remember it so well.
I did not lose the 200 pounds yet. I was working out, but not like I am now. I was not a popular blogger. I was new at this.
When you get 3-4 comments a post, and this comes out, it hurts.
I remember my PC retraction that I wrote……
To the last person, I agree with you. I am not only on WW. And yes, I do like to pat myself on the back! I also like to tell anyone that losing weight is not as hard, and trust me, I will not gain back the weight.
Oh, and I go to the doctor every month for a physical to make sure I am in good health. But hey, I hope you find a program and stick with it for the rest of your life! I have
That was two years ago.
My views have changed a little. Losing weight is not easy. I am not on WW.
For two years I kept my mouth shut about this comment. How much it stung.
Now, I laugh. I laugh because I can tell the anonymous commenter that he/she is wrong.
Very wrong.
Negative comments will always be there. You either spend your life defending yourself, ignore it, or prove people wrong.
I just read a comment about me. How I brag on Facebook that I work out seven days a week. How annoying I am.
Do you know why I brag?
Let’s talk about the first day I worked out, at 420 pounds. How I hated the gym. How I hated that everyone was looking at me. How I could not fit on the bench press. How I went on the treadmill for 48 seconds. How I cried. How I drove around for 30 minutes after wards so I would not tell my wife that I was at the gym for 48 seconds. I was real annoying then.
The truth is, I learn from comments. You really never TURN OFF comments.
Through email were the tough criticisms, which I REALLY respected. I got some on Facebook. I learn a lot through feedback. Sometimes I do not even realize the tone of a post.
I also ignored some. When I write 1000 words, and the reader is focused on three of them. Their interpretation. Their perception is not my reality.
I get less comments now. Rightfully so. I have turned them off and on. I rarely respond. It does not drive my posts like it might have in the past…..
But I waited two years for this. For the idiot who wrote the anonymous comment two years ago. I spent over two years proving you wrong.
And I have a lifetime to go.
Congratulation and happy anniversary, Cheers
Tony,
Don’t ya just love the negative nancy’s out there?! I had my first negative comment a few months back. Someone accused me of hating obese people. I am obese. It defied logic.
I’ve come to the realization that when you post or talk about things that make people think or that they relate to, their first instinct is to attack the post / poster. Because of some sort of insecurity they have with themselves.
I can relate to that on many levels.
Now I get some negative emails or comments every so often when I write posts that touch nerves. You know the either love them or hate them posts. For the emails, I usually just hit delete. Because there is nothing I can say or do that will change that person’s opinion.
I just gotta keep on keepin’ on with my agenda and that is to help others AND myself.
I like your posts, and reading your blog. It is true there will always be someone out there that has negative thoughts, comment and opinions no matter what we do. I personally just ignore it because I have better things to waste my time on; more so then ignorant people. At least your lucky enough not to get asked, “Are you pregnant? Are you having a boy or a girl?” After losing 45 lbs, and shrinking out of most of my work clothes (scrubs, I work at a hospital) I am swimming in them, or trying to keep them tied up around my waist. I’m still in the weight loss process, and my smart ass reply is usually, “No, there’s a burger in there, don’t ask stupid questions and don’t assume things.” Have a good day!
Keep on going Tony! Prove that anonymous peep wrong!
We luv ya! 
ooohhh – I love this: “For the idiot who wrote the anonymous comment two years ago. I spent over two years proving you wrong.”
Years ago, my former boss came into work when I was a chef. He sat down, looked at me, and said “Does it even matter what I say, you will die soon.” He got up and left right after.
Yeah, I have had my share of wonderfulness
When we blog we put ourselves out there…and not everyone is going to agree with what we say or how we live our lives. The fact is-you lost the weight and kept it off BRAVO!!! You have earned the right to pat yourself on the back.
To the folks that don’t agree with what you say (or what any blogger says)…all they have to do is stop “following”. ;-0
It is funny. There are people who disagree, which is normal. That is healthy. I write so an opinion will come out.
Then there are those who just want to slay everything you write.
Those are the ones that can not stay away. I tracked one person who “hated” my blog (From Cali). They went to my blog 300 times in two hours to see if I would respond to their rude comment.
People are freaks – fat or thin.
I’m glad you turned that comment into a motivating factor. You’re a better person for it!
I got my second hateful email this past week from someone who was unsubscribing from my blog because I’m not losing as much weight anymore.
Uhh…okay.
Because what I write dictates how much weight you can lose? WHATEVER.
Congrats Tony and I’m raising my glass of water to toast your success. May you enjoy many, many more years of proving your nay-sayers wrong!
YOU ROCK! People who have lost sight of their dreams will spend all of their time trying to crush somebody else’s dreams because it means they don’t have to admit to themselves that they have failed or lost hope.
If what works for you is a combo program…WHOO HOO!!! We are not a “one size fits all” society no matter how hard the media, tv shows, diet books, etc. keep pushing that dogma. Jealousy isn’t pretty, as we see in that post above.
I hope whoever it is/was finds their way. I’m not trying to come off as holier than thou, cause I’m not…I’m just tired. Wouldn’t the world be a little better place if we tried building each other up, instead of tearing each other down.
~Written by a 380lb., morbidly obese, 40 yr. old woman who finds inspiration in reading your blog to keep trying.
I get tons of negative comments.
Wait….are porn spam comments “negative” ?
I got kind of mean comment today..someone who was “disappointed that I haven’t lost more weight since losing my first 100″ pounds. I’m pretty proud of myself for not quitting (or even considering it as an option) in what has been one of the hardest times in my adult life. So be disappointed, but it doesn’t change that I’m killing it…and that I’ve made changes that will last a lifetime..
I decided to disallow anonymous comments. Not because I can’t take criticism or because I would curl up in a little ball and die if someone told me I suck. I did it because I firmly believe that if you are going to comment, positive or negative, have the balls to put your name on it.
Good for you, proving the naysayer wrong. May you continue to do so.
YA for you. I freakin’ hate ugly comments.
You go!
I remember when you got that, or at least when you wrote about it the first time. Kudos to you !
That comment would only motivate me more to prove that person wrong. It sounds like that person was jealous because he/she saw you going above and beyond to achieve a goal that he/she wasn’t working hard enough to reach. It’s amazing how people just put unsolicited advice out there. Congrats on all your hard work. I send your posts to a male friend of mine who is trying to lose weight.
Poo-poo platter on the anonymo.
Everyone is brave when they’re hiding behind their keyboard. Come on out and be brave anonymo!
Work it Tony. We’re all here and listening.
I kicked it at the gym this morning and dragged my HUBBINS with. He did great!
At the end of the day, it will be your loose fitting clothes and happy attitude that will win the war of the “anonymous” comment. I’m not that popular in the blog world and so far that has kept me safe. I know the day will come when some ‘know it all’ will say that I’m not training right for my marathon goal or that I’m not eating right’. When I do get it, I will know that i can easily say ” Screw you, i’m on my way”. You have an awesome blog and are doing great! Lots of your readers know it, and so do you!
You don’t brag. You state reality. I’m sure you’re still amazed at the differences in the way you act and eat. I know I am still amazed at the contrast between my behavior now and in the past. But people who are still working to get there oftentimes have hostility that isn’t About You at all. It’s about their own frustration.
Anyone who could leave a negative comment for you is disgusting to me. Whatever you have done to lose weight, is fantastic. Who cares exactly how you did it? People are not factory made machines that all work the same. You lost the weight fast in the beginning because 1.YOU ARE A GUY 2. You had a lot to lose. 3. You are YOUNG. 4. You tired hard. 5. And that is what your body wanted to do.
I admire you. I am losing 80 pounds for the SECOND time. I am so pissed that I am here again struggling to lose it. And now I am over 40 and I am female so it is slooooow, it has taken 18 months to lose 41. I have not lost a pound in three months and I have 39 more pounds to go. I am so sick of not eating anything so I increased my workouts and my calories a little and still nothing. And when I say I increased my calories I went from 1600 a day to 1900 a day.
I don’t know you personally-but I am proud of you!!! I am jealous though. I see how fast guys lose weight and it gets me down….but you inspire me!
Congrats! You look amazing. I only have 60lbs to lose and kinda feel like a whiner reading what you went through. I am so proud of you and your hard work. Screw you anon poster, he did it!
Tony, I have to say this. I am sooo grateful for how you treat others. You have lost a ton of weight yet you NEVER judge others and you never put anyone down. There is another blogger who has lost weight who now sees that as a platform to humiliate others and put them down. You are not one of those people. You continue to inspire others with positivity and understanding and for that I say thank you.
- Lisa
Hey,
I have recieved all told four negative comments.
One was earned.
I overstepped
One was misinformed.
They didn’t read it very well.
One was bitter.
they had their own mental issues.
and one was jealous.
They were telling me not to get too uppity because losing it was the easy part…keeping it off was the hard part.
Well, I am going on two years this coming may. I am not at goal but am not far off.
I haven maintained every pound I have lost.
plbbbbtttt.
there are all sorts.
Sounds like yours was misinformed, jealous and bitter.
That’s quite a comment.
Tony,
I’ve been a follower for quite a long time and the reason why I rarely posted was because I wanted to remain anonymous. For me, not for you. I don’t want people I know that have not seen me in years to know how much weight I’ve gained and how I am struggling. When you turned off Comments and went to only using FB, I thought commenting on Facebook would only show up on YOUR Facebook. I have a lot to learn. I’ve found out that anyone that comments on your Facebook has their post searchable on Google! So, when people don’t comment, please don’t take offense. Sometimes it’s not about you.
As for the negative poster, it makes me sad that you held on to that negative feedback to the point that you felt the need to address it again 2 years later. I am the same way, so I am not throwing stones. I just recognize in you what I, myself, need to work on. Don’t let other’s negativity fester in your mind. Let it go. You can only be responsible for your own happiness. I remember reading something that I try to remember when I replay past hurts over and over in my head – “Being angry and holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person get sick.” I love your blog and I hope you continue writing for many more years to come!
dude, i don’t know anyone who has been more successful than you. Keep proving those assholes wrong.